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As many of you know, my mother-in-law is battling cancer, and I'm one of her supporters. So, I decided to create a thread for me to recount her battle. Posts of support, tasteful humor, and/or anecdotes of your own are welcome, but be warned. Any disrespectful remarks or distasteful humor will result in the poster being asked to leave. This is a serious subject, but not too serious, I hope, because laughter is the best medicine.
Now, enough with that malarkey. I'll get it started.
This is Mom and myself. Mom and I met 15 years ago when I became friends with her son, and I've called her Mom ever since. I never had a mom, so other than my grandmother, she's the only Mom I ever had. We found out earlier this year that she has
Mantle Cell Lymphoma, one of the rarest, most aggressive forms of Lymphoma. Prognosis for someone with this disease is not good, to say the least.
Her treatment option, as she only had one presented to her, was to begin chemotherapy immediately. For 6 months, she'll spend 5-6 days admitted in the hospital, getting 8 treatments over that time period. The final treatment lasts for a continuous 24 hours. Then, she is at home for 3 weeks, but she has to go in for labs and other appointments throughout. Then, she starts the cycle again. She got admitted yesterday for her second round of chemo.
While she was home, the level of her health varied from day to day. Some days, she seems as good as she ever has. Some days, she's in a little pain, but overall ok. Then there are days where she doesn't want to get out of bed. One thing that, luckily, seems to stay constant is her appetite. She's been eating very well, and those of us around her see this as a very good sign. Every time she goes in
for labs, they tell her that her white blood count is rising and looking good, so that's wonderful news. This all started with an enlarged spleen, which is still enlarged, though not as big as it was, and will probably come out after she completes the 6 months of chemo.
For now, all we can do is take it a day at a time, and enjoy every minute we have with her.
Now, enough with that malarkey. I'll get it started.
This is Mom and myself. Mom and I met 15 years ago when I became friends with her son, and I've called her Mom ever since. I never had a mom, so other than my grandmother, she's the only Mom I ever had. We found out earlier this year that she has
Mantle Cell Lymphoma, one of the rarest, most aggressive forms of Lymphoma. Prognosis for someone with this disease is not good, to say the least.
Her treatment option, as she only had one presented to her, was to begin chemotherapy immediately. For 6 months, she'll spend 5-6 days admitted in the hospital, getting 8 treatments over that time period. The final treatment lasts for a continuous 24 hours. Then, she is at home for 3 weeks, but she has to go in for labs and other appointments throughout. Then, she starts the cycle again. She got admitted yesterday for her second round of chemo.
While she was home, the level of her health varied from day to day. Some days, she seems as good as she ever has. Some days, she's in a little pain, but overall ok. Then there are days where she doesn't want to get out of bed. One thing that, luckily, seems to stay constant is her appetite. She's been eating very well, and those of us around her see this as a very good sign. Every time she goes in
for labs, they tell her that her white blood count is rising and looking good, so that's wonderful news. This all started with an enlarged spleen, which is still enlarged, though not as big as it was, and will probably come out after she completes the 6 months of chemo.
For now, all we can do is take it a day at a time, and enjoy every minute we have with her.
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Well, Mom came home from the hospital last night. She's doing quite well. I cooked her breakfast this morning. I noticed that she's got some bald spots in her buzz cut, so the hair loss has started. She is in good spirits about it, though. Said, "That's just that less hair I have to shave next time, haha." Everyday I am amazed at her attitude about this entire situation. I mean, I always knew she was strong, but I never imagined HOW strong she truly is. I am in awe of her.
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She does have a bit of abdominal pain most of the time, but she's been used to that for a long time due to having severe acid reflux. The pain she does have is usually tolerable.
Btw, I am totes not surprised you're the one who cares the most, Yannus.
Edit: Well, enough to follow this and give words of support. I know Clicky cares, too.
Btw, I am totes not surprised you're the one who cares the most, Yannus.
Edit: Well, enough to follow this and give words of support. I know Clicky cares, too.
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Proof that life continues after cancer, Mom and Pop (her boyfriend) went fishing last night and caught a ton of fish. This is something they've enjoyed doing together for the entire 2 years they've been together, and they're still enjoying it.
And, yes, she is a fish catching maniac, guys. She always catches at least one, and she always catches more than he does, haha.
We'll be having delicious fresh catfish for dinner tonight!
And, yes, she is a fish catching maniac, guys. She always catches at least one, and she always catches more than he does, haha.
We'll be having delicious fresh catfish for dinner tonight!
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Thanks, Checkbox. We did have some delicious fresh catfish that night.
Yesterday was an exceptionally rough day. Sometime Monday, Mom developed an abscessed tooth. The right side of her face is badly swollen, and her whole mouth hurts. She was also running a fever, which she was told to go directly to the ER if that happens, so Tuesday morning, Mom and I rode to the hospital in an ambulance. Her lab work showed that all of her blood counts are low, but the terrible news is that her platelets, which are what fights disease and infection, are so low that they didn't even come up in her lab results. So, she got admitted to the hospital. I haven't spoken to her today, but when I left, they were planning on giving her platelets and possibly a full blood transfusion, if one is required. They're pumping her full of antibiotics, and are planning to consult with oral surgeons about having the tooth removed. No clue how long she'll
be in the hospital for, but I do know that she is scared and if I could have stayed the night at the hospital with her, I would have.
I say she's scared...but she's not the only one. Oral surgery while undergoing chemo isn't the best option, but it's probably the only one she has.
Yesterday was an exceptionally rough day. Sometime Monday, Mom developed an abscessed tooth. The right side of her face is badly swollen, and her whole mouth hurts. She was also running a fever, which she was told to go directly to the ER if that happens, so Tuesday morning, Mom and I rode to the hospital in an ambulance. Her lab work showed that all of her blood counts are low, but the terrible news is that her platelets, which are what fights disease and infection, are so low that they didn't even come up in her lab results. So, she got admitted to the hospital. I haven't spoken to her today, but when I left, they were planning on giving her platelets and possibly a full blood transfusion, if one is required. They're pumping her full of antibiotics, and are planning to consult with oral surgeons about having the tooth removed. No clue how long she'll
be in the hospital for, but I do know that she is scared and if I could have stayed the night at the hospital with her, I would have.
I say she's scared...but she's not the only one. Oral surgery while undergoing chemo isn't the best option, but it's probably the only one she has.
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awesome!I gave her the password to my NetFlix account. I think she keeps forgetting she has it.
It's irrelevant, though, because she got released today. She got home just before I left for work.
Here's a list of good TV shows on netflix, be sure to pass it to her if she likes comedy. They're all pretty raunchy.
The League
Arrested Development
Louie
Less raunchy
Psych
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Arrested Development is badass. Parks and Recreation is another comedy I can highly recommend.
Louie is raunchy, and barely a comedy at times, but A+ Quality Television nonetheless.
The League is hit or miss for me... it really just fills a "background noise" requirement for me most of the time, though I have laughed out loud quite a few times at it.
As for the actual topic of the thread, I'm glad to hear she is home!
Louie is raunchy, and barely a comedy at times, but A+ Quality Television nonetheless.
The League is hit or miss for me... it really just fills a "background noise" requirement for me most of the time, though I have laughed out loud quite a few times at it.
As for the actual topic of the thread, I'm glad to hear she is home!
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I was thinking about you and your Mom yesterday after getting contacted about stem cell donation. I'm on a list of potential donors, and apparently am a good match with someone who needs a bone marrow transplant. They sent me a ton of info, and it was really interesting, but kind of terrifying reading it all. I guess lymphoma is probably not the type of cancer to be treated in this way, but the whole idea of getting chemotherapy to destroy your own body is just awful. I hope she's able to keep her spirits high and pull through this.
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I'm not sure if bone marrow is a solution or not, actually. I should probably look into that.I was thinking about you and your Mom yesterday after getting contacted about stem cell donation. I'm on a list of potential donors, and apparently am a good match with someone who needs a bone marrow transplant. They sent me a ton of info, and it was really interesting, but kind of terrifying reading it all. I guess lymphoma is probably not the type of cancer to be treated in this way, but the whole idea of getting chemotherapy to destroy your own body is just awful. I hope she's able to keep her spirits high and pull through this.
I thank you for your thoughts and concerns. She's still doing remarkably well. She left to get admitted today just
a little bit ago, and she DIDN'T want to go, but she knows she has to.
you patronizing son of a bitch
I hope you're being sarcastic. Her situations sucks, there's no way around that.
Hehe, this just made me laugh.I'm joking. I'm always joking.
k8, behave yourself!
I should probably look into that, too.I still need to sign up for the bone marrow registry as a donor.
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Don't know about the states, but in Canada you can sign up online. They send you a little package with instructions on how to swab yourself, then you send it back by mail. Super easy.
Now that I've been selected I'll have to do a bunch of other tests, of course, but the sign up was a piece of cake.
Manders, she's being admitted today for another round of chemo? Good luck to her.
Now that I've been selected I'll have to do a bunch of other tests, of course, but the sign up was a piece of cake.
Manders, she's being admitted today for another round of chemo? Good luck to her.
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they end up filtering your blood then extracting the marrow, right?Don't know about the states, but in Canada you can sign up online. They send you a little package with instructions on how to swab yourself, then you send it back by mail. Super easy.
Now that I've been selected I'll have to do a bunch of other tests, of course, but the sign up was a piece of cake.
Manders, she's being admitted today for another round of chemo? Good luck to her.
I hear the best part of chemo is the morphine.
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When you actually donate bone marrow? No, they stick a needle into the back of your pelvis (in a few locations) and extract the marrow directly. No filtering as far as I'm aware.
There is actually a second way to get stem cells that I wasn't aware of. They dose you up with a drug for a few days to encourage stem cells to reproduce more quickly, then you have enough just floating around in your blood that they can get a good sample that way. "Peripheral blood stem cell transplantation" is what that's called. Much easier on the donor since they just have to sit there attached to a machine for a few hours while it sucks your blood, takes the stem cells, then gives the rest back (like a plasma or platelet donation). No anesthetics needed either.
Not sure why marrow transplantation is needed anymore, but there must be some advantage since it is still done. That's one of the many questions I'll be asking when
they follow up in a couple days.
There is actually a second way to get stem cells that I wasn't aware of. They dose you up with a drug for a few days to encourage stem cells to reproduce more quickly, then you have enough just floating around in your blood that they can get a good sample that way. "Peripheral blood stem cell transplantation" is what that's called. Much easier on the donor since they just have to sit there attached to a machine for a few hours while it sucks your blood, takes the stem cells, then gives the rest back (like a plasma or platelet donation). No anesthetics needed either.
Not sure why marrow transplantation is needed anymore, but there must be some advantage since it is still done. That's one of the many questions I'll be asking when
they follow up in a couple days.
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That is the process about which I have heard.When you actually donate bone marrow? No, they stick a needle into the back of your pelvis (in a few locations) and extract the marrow directly. No filtering as far as I'm aware.
There is actually a second way to get stem cells that I wasn't aware of. They dose you up with a drug for a few days to encourage stem cells to reproduce more quickly, then you have enough just floating around in your blood that they can get a good sample that way. "Peripheral blood stem cell transplantation" is what that's called. Much easier on the donor since they just have to sit there attached to a machine for a few hours while it sucks your blood, takes the stem cells, then gives the rest back (like a plasma or platelet donation). No anesthetics needed either.
Not
sure why marrow transplantation is needed anymore, but there must be some advantage since it is still done. That's one of the many questions I'll be asking when they follow up in a couple days.
my sister had bone marrow sampled for something when she was in college and said it hurt like a mother fucker even with IV painkillers. That said, it is certainly worth it to potentially save someone's life.
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Anonymous. That's one thing I found interesting about all this. If both the donor and the recipient agree to have their information shared, they'll do that, but only after at least a year. I assume that's to avoid the donor getting too wrapped up in the process. Judging by the info they gave me, they seem quite concerned about my well-being after the fact, dealing with a possible failure etc.
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Yeah, she's there now. This is round 3 of 6.Don't know about the states, but in Canada you can sign up online. They send you a little package with instructions on how to swab yourself, then you send it back by mail. Super easy.
Now that I've been selected I'll have to do a bunch of other tests, of course, but the sign up was a piece of cake.
Manders, she's being admitted today for another round of chemo? Good luck to her.
She's not getting morphine, dude.I hear the best part of chemo is the morphine.
Indeed. Mom had to have a spinal tap done for diagnosing purposes at the beginning of this, and she was awake for it, and said it was one of the worst experiences she's ever had.That is the process about which I have heard.
my sister had bone marrow sampled for something when she was in college and said it hurt
like a mother fucker even with IV painkillers. That said, it is certainly worth it to potentially save someone's life.
It makes sense they would be concerned about your well-being. You are sacrificing a lot for someone you know nothing about, but that needs your help.Anonymous. That's one thing I found interesting about all this. If both the donor and the recipient agree to have their information shared, they'll do that, but only after at least a year. I assume that's to avoid the donor getting too wrapped up in the process. Judging by the info they gave me, they seem quite concerned about my well-being after the fact, dealing with a possible failure etc.
yeah that actually seems pretty reasonable. I wouldn't
want to meet the perosn I donated to if I did, because I would feel bad if they felt like they owed me something.
Second both of these, but you can take solace in knowing that you did everything in your power to help a human being.I can't imagine the stress of giving someone bone marrow, and then it being rejected, or them dying anwyay.
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